I just got off the phone with a person I consider to be my friend. We went to community college together. I transferred to UCLA but she didn’t get accepted. My friend, Kelly, did get accepted to UC Santa Cruz but turned the opportunity down to stay close to her boyfriend. I respect her decision to a certain degree- The plan for the Mrs. and I has always been to go to the same school, or at least try to; so I would have gone to any school or city just to be with her. But nothing was holding the guy to L.A. He just had some part-time job. He could have gone to Santa Cruz with her and get the same job there. But this isn’t about him.
I haven’t seen Kelly since last summer. I miss her terribly and I regret that our friendship feels so far away. I have the prospect of seeing her next Wednesday for a screening at UCLA. I say the prospect because she needs to confirm with the boyfriend before telling me she’s coming for sure tomorrow. I mentioned during our conversation that I feel like some people drift away and they shouldn’t. “It’d be different if I were going to UCLA,” she said with a hint of sadness in her voice. “It doesn’t have to be this way,” I replied.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Friends you meet in college shouldn’t be just friends during a semester or a quarter- but it sure feels like that’s the trend nowadays. No one wants to get attached. Or maybe it is at some point just a friendship of convenience- you know, “let’s be friends so we can study together”… and then, “it was nice meeting you. Peace.”
Maybe I’ll get to see her this Wednesday and convince myself that our friendship is somewhat strong to make it through this. And if it isn’t, I still hope to hear from her again. Maybe we should stop being on Facebook and leaving messages on walls and rather hang out and have some physical interaction. Maybe friendships would be stronger this way.
-Mrs. This One