Tonight I watched an episode of One Tree Hill that focused on letting go of relationships (mostly friendships) because people come and go. This episode was from the last season, but to those who have watched this show long term, you’d know that one of the main themes in this show has been that “people always leave.”
P. Sawyer's Work
Coincidentally, I texted an old friend who is currently in the process of applying to schools. Seeing a news story about UCLA sending out admissions offers in error to some 800 applicants (don’t get me started with this) made me think of her and I got curious enough to ask if she had heard from schools already. To my surprise, she let me know that she had deleted my phone number because she didn’t feel our friendship was healthy. I didn’t really bother to ask her for details and simply wished her luck with schools. The fact that I didn’t fight for it, might hint to trouble in our friendship. But really I didn’t see our relationship as having any kind of trouble. In fact, I thought our friendship would be the kind in which our future children would become good friends. Little did I know.
The weird thing is that I’ve also felt like I’m losing other old friends- including my closest friend. But at the same time, I’m gaining new friends. I’m not sure if this means that it is true that people always leave. But if I keep going at this rate, I will not have people to reminisce with twenty years from now. In fact, as of right now I don’t even have childhood friends since I’ve moved so much in my life.
–Mrs. This One
The Mrs. is out on her History Dinners (along with some graduate students), and I have been watching the 5th season of Friday Night Lights for the past few hours. I’m supposed to be doing homework, but it’s hard to do homework when you’re upset (long story). I am almost on the last episode, so I won’t be procrastinating for too long.
Today I got accepted to Local Law School. Not my favorite one, but I’m sure it’s a fine school. I’m going to plan a visit soon. I should have done so before, but time is hard to find these days. I think I could even sit in a class and everything.
It’s weird, I remember thinking that I was so far away from a day like today- yet, here I am. Growing up went by so quickly, though I know I have more growing up to do. But really, how crazy is it? To be graduating from college soon. Me. The kid who was working full time after high school because college wasn’t going to be an option. The kid who waited tables, specifically to Duke students, thinking that one day, I could be changing the world instead. The kid who sold hot dogs to attorneys in downtown, rushing to another trial.
Getting here wasn’t easy, and I certainly didn’t do it alone. And even if tonight, on a Friday night, I find myself without company, there’s no question that I’ve been blessed to be where I am today.
-Mrs. This One
Happy birthday, best friend! I am so lucky to have found you and to still have you in my life. You are still my wonderful present. I’m sorry for the distance, and the lack of time. But you have me, today, tomorrow and always. You can always count on me, as I’d always do anything for you. Friends like you are hard to come by. Thank you for sticking around.
It seems I fell into the trap of making this blog less of a priority. I could excuse myself with the fact that we are in finals week, but I do not believe in excuses; at least not today. It should be good news for you all and ourselves that tomorrow we will have our last final for this quarter. I estimate we will be done with school (for about a week) shortly before 11am.
After this nightmare is over, I will continue my preparations to receive my best friend who is coming to visit. Who is that lucky to be in that situation right after a long and stressful week? I’d say not many.
Although married people do tend to drift apart from their friends, I’d like to think that we can appreciate people other than us two. After all (and specially), if you live away from family, your friends take place for them, at least geographically.
It doesn’t happen often that I get to see my bestie as she lives all the way in Northern California- and we are stuck here in L.A. But in occasions like this one, even if it’s for four days, I just tend to jump from the excitement I get just thinking about it.
The funny thing is that we met online. We started to communicate on a website that also hosted blogs (just like this one!), and after emails and a few thousand text messages a month, we decided to meet. Meeting just confirmed what I already knew about her, that I wanted her in my life forever. We still communicate digitally (not as often since marriage and UCLA happened), and we see each other as much as we can throughout the year.
I couldn’t have asked for a better friend. And to know that if it wasn’t because of the internet we would have never met truly blows my mind.
That’s it for now. Pardon my lack of consistency. Do know that I’m here to stay.
So we went out to a movie tonight with a couple of friends. Halfway through the meet, the Mrs. elbows me and tells me, “honey, you’re being a bitch.” Here’s the thing, this friend of ours is always contradicting me in everything I say. Don’t get me wrong, I like the guy- I just wish he knew that everything isn’t about him.
But at what point do I know what I’m saying? I’m just trying to have a good time, make some conversation, and well, nothing other than that. But he went on about something really small, and even though he knew I was right, he kept contradicting me regardless. Try to argue with a soon-to-be (or more accurately, eventually-to-be) lawyer and you’ll get an endless exchange of words.
I need a you’re-being-too-mean meter at this point. Maybe I’ve been married long enough that other people bother me. Or maybe it’s really just him. I think I need to stay away from caffeine for a little while.