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I’m Here to Stay

It seems I fell into the trap of making this blog less of a priority. I could excuse myself with the fact that we are in finals week, but I do not believe in excuses; at least not today. It should be good news for you all and ourselves that tomorrow we will have our last final for this quarter. I estimate we will be done with school (for about a week) shortly before 11am.

After this nightmare is over, I will continue my preparations to receive my best friend who is coming to visit. Who is that lucky to be in that situation right after a long and stressful week? I’d say not many.

Although married people do tend to drift apart from their friends, I’d like to think that we can appreciate people other than us two. After all (and specially), if you live away from family, your friends take place for them, at least geographically.

It doesn’t happen often that I get to see my bestie as she lives all the way in Northern California- and we are stuck here in L.A. But in occasions like this one, even if it’s for four days, I just tend to jump from the excitement I get just thinking about it.

The funny thing is that we met online. We started to communicate on a website that also hosted blogs (just like this one!), and after emails and a few thousand text messages a month, we decided to meet. Meeting just confirmed what I already knew about her, that I wanted her in my life forever. We still communicate digitally (not as often since marriage and UCLA happened), and we see each other as much as we can throughout the year.

I couldn’t have asked for a better friend. And to know that if it wasn’t because of the internet we would have never met truly blows my mind.

That’s it for now. Pardon my lack of consistency. Do know that I’m here to stay.


So we went out to a movie tonight with a couple of friends. Halfway through the meet, the Mrs. elbows me and tells me, “honey, you’re being a bitch.” Here’s the thing, this friend of ours is always contradicting me in everything I say. Don’t get me wrong, I like the guy- I just wish he knew that everything isn’t about him.

But at what point do I know what I’m saying? I’m just trying to have a good time, make some conversation, and well, nothing other than that. But he went on about something really small, and even though he knew I was right, he kept contradicting me regardless. Try to argue with a soon-to-be (or more accurately, eventually-to-be) lawyer and you’ll get an endless exchange of words.

I need a you’re-being-too-mean meter at this point. Maybe I’ve been married long enough that other people bother me. Or maybe it’s really just him. I think I need to stay away from caffeine for a little while.

College Friends

I just got off the phone with a person I consider to be my friend. We went to community college together. I transferred to UCLA but she didn’t get accepted. My friend, Kelly, did get accepted to UC Santa Cruz but turned the opportunity down to stay close to her boyfriend. I respect her decision to a certain degree- The plan for the Mrs. and I has always been to go to the same school, or at least try to; so I would have gone to any school or city just to be with her. But nothing was holding the guy to L.A. He just had some part-time job. He could have gone to Santa Cruz with her and get the same job there. But this isn’t about him.

I haven’t seen Kelly since last summer. I miss her terribly and I regret that our friendship feels so far away. I have the prospect of seeing her next Wednesday for a screening at UCLA. I say the prospect because she needs to confirm with the boyfriend before telling me she’s coming for sure tomorrow. I mentioned during our conversation that I feel like some people drift away and they shouldn’t. “It’d be different if I were going to UCLA,” she said with a hint of sadness in her voice. “It doesn’t have to be this way,” I replied.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Friends you meet in college shouldn’t be just friends during a semester or a quarter- but it sure feels like that’s the trend nowadays. No one wants to get attached. Or maybe it is at some point just a friendship of convenience- you know, “let’s be friends so we can study together”… and then, “it was nice meeting you. Peace.”

Maybe I’ll get to see her this Wednesday and convince myself that our friendship is somewhat strong to make it through this. And if it isn’t, I still hope to hear from her again. Maybe we should stop being on Facebook and leaving messages on walls and rather hang out and have some physical interaction. Maybe friendships would be stronger this way.

-Mrs. This One

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