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A Random Act of Kindness

About a month or so ago my boss decided to make me switch desks. With the switch, I would finally have a decent cubicle. But with the move also came “Chatty Cathy.” I am not even exaggerating. This girl talks from the minute she walks in until the moment she leaves.  I actually wouldn’t be surprised if she talks to herself on the elevator before she gets here (and in her car, while walking…).

Can one girl be a zoo on her own?

In the little time I’ve been sitting close to her, I’ve learned that:

  • she’s a student
  • failing Calculus
  • and moving to Irvine, CA in September
  • who loves cats
  • and hates dogs
  • who doesn’t like hairy men
  • and thinks women are crazy (hopefully she is included in this)
  • who wants twins
  • Shane and Jenna
  • and wants to be cremated when she dies.

TMI, anybody? I’ve never talked to her since I’ve worked here, yet I know more about her than the managers I talk to on a daily basis.

My only upside to this (if you would even call it that) is that she usually comes after 1pm Monday through Thursday and earlier on Friday. So even when Friday she’s an all-day thing, it’s nice to know that she’s not here during the other four mornings. Until today.

She came in a little after I did and once I heard her voice, I almost fainted. It’s Monday- why the heck are you here at 8.10am?!? I quickly went through my bag to get my IPod which I only use on Mondays after 1pm (wonder why?), but when I found the thing, it was dead- and so were my hopes of a quiet morning.

"I feel bad for guys with chest hair because they have to shampoo twice; first their heads and then their chests" -actual quote from my coworker

So I sat on my chair staring intently at my IPod while it was charging, mourning and secretly begging for this girl to shut up- even when I know she never does. I’m dead serious! Someone asked her to be quiet once and she stopped… for about 5 minutes only!

I was already getting used to the idea that this would be a sucky Monday when one of my managers approached my cubicle and said “brownies in the kitchen!” Even though it was barely 8.30am and I know there’s a rule in some country that “Thou shalt not eat any brownies before lunch time,” I still decided to drown my pain with the little square of chocolate. Totally worth it.

The random act of kindness from my boss may not have been enough to make my coworker stop talking, but it sure made me think that maybe this Monday isn’t so sucky after all. And perhaps I won’t jump off the 10th floor anymore. At least not today.

Maintaining A Professional Relationship

Maintaining a relationship can be difficult but maintaining a professional relationship when working with your partner could be tricky also. Not only do you have to worry about reporting your relationship to HR but also, you may find yourself worrying about your behavior even if it is not as inappropriate as you may think it is.

When I first got the call to come for an interview with the company where my girlfriend works at, the only thought I had at the time was “I am one step closer to getting that much needed summer job.” I had been looking for a job for over four months prior to getting hired at my current job, and the thought of not being able to gather enough money for rent over the summer was beginning to hunt me. However, it was not until my first week working with my girlfriend that I realized that I was getting myself in a situation that I never gave much thought to.

We agreed jointly that there was no need to report our relationship to HR. Our reasoning behind it was that there was really no reason to. If something were to happen between us, we understood that such issue should be left at home and never to be discussed here.

My other concern was the fact that we were coming in to and leaving work at the same time. “Don’t you think they’ll notice?” I asked my girlfriend once. “We’re friends that work together, friends commute sometimes,” she simply said. Then it was the fact that sometimes we happen to go to the restroom at the same time (we work about 3 cubicles away). Or that sometimes she gets a drink for me, or I get lunch for her. “We’re too good of friends to each other,” I told her once.

But now, with May almost gone and the 4th of July getting closer and closer, another concern arises. We are planning to take a week off to spend that week/weekend with my in laws. So how do we do that again? I said that it made more sense to ask separately and not to offer more explanations than “I’m visiting my family for the holiday.” But she thinks we should do it jointly. What to do?

Well, we sure don’t know yet. But we have about two more weeks until we have to figure it out. We have maintained a good professional relationship so far, will this give an end to that? Hopefully it will not. I like having a paycheck- but even more, I like flirting with that cute coworker who works just three cubicles away from me.

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